The following is from an actual 1950s
home economics textbook intended for high school girls,
teaching them how to prepare for married life.
- Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even
the night before, to have a delicious meal on time.
This lets him know you have been thinking about him
and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry
when they come home and a good meal are part of a warm
welcome
- Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes
to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch
up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh
looking. Be gay and interesting, his boring day may
need a lift.
- Clear away clutter. Gather up school
supplies, toys, etc. Run a dish cloth over the tables.
Your husband will feel like he has reached a haven of
rest and order and it will give you a lift too.
- Prepare the children. Wash their lovely
little hands and faces, comb their hair, change their
clothes, etc.
- Minimize the noise. Stop the washer,
dryer, vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet. Greet
him with a smile.
- Don't greet him with problems and/or
complaints. If he is late for dinner, smile and accept
it without a word. This is minor compared to his hard
day at work.
- Make him comfortable. Lean him back
in an easy chair, have a cool drink ready, speak in
low, soft, soothing, pleasant voice. Allow him to relax
and unwind.
- Listen to him. Let him talk first.
- Make the evening his. Never complain
if he doesn't take you out to dinner or other entertainment.
He is under a lot of pressure and strain.
- The goal: try to make your home a place
of peace and order where your husband can relax.
Now for the updated version for the 20th
Century Woman:
- Have dinner ready. Make reservations
ahead of time. If you don't have time, leave him voice
mail where you would like to eat, that you have had
a bad day. This allows him time to change your mood.
- Prepare yourself. Stop at Lancome
counter at the mall on the way home. Use his credit
card.
- Clear away clutter. Call housekeeper
and have her clean real quick, send any kids toys to
goodwill that are on the floor.
- Prepare children. Send them to their
room to play Nintendo, watch TV, play on the computer,
etc. After all, they're from his previous marriage.
- Minimize noise. If you happen to be
home when he gets there, lock yourself in the bathroom.
- Don't greet him with problems/complaints.
Let him speak first, your complaints will get more attention
and remain fresh in his mind through dinner. Don't complain
if he is late. Remind him leftovers are in the fridge
and he has the dishes to do.
- Make him comfortable. Tell him where
he can find a blanket if he is cold. This will really
show you care.
- Listen to him. But don't ever let
him get the last word.
- Make the evening his. Never complain
if he doesn't take you out. Go with a girlfriend or
go shopping and remember to use his credit card.
- The goal: Try to keep things amicable
without reminding him that he only thinks the world
revolves around him. Obviously he is wrong, it revolves
around you!
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